Sex. How do you start talking to your kids about this?
- Don’t stress. Lots of great resources out there but here are a few trusted ones.
- American Academy of Pediatrics Breaks the conversation down by age.
- Kidshealth.org Answers common questions that parents have.
- Amaze.org Information for parents regarding safety, sex, and puberty. Their website offers conversation starter prompts as well as sample answers for some common questions.
- Tea consent video Consent explained. Using tea. It doesn’t get more simple than this.
- Talk early and often. Frequent conversations will make talking to your child about safety and sex less awkward, and more matter-of-fact. If you feel like you screwed up, then there is always another opportunity, and they don’t have to be planned. Sometimes there will be teachable moments, e.g. turn a child’s story about how Susie pushed Sally into the importance of consent and respect for ours and other people’s bodies, buying bathing suits can include a brief chat about not letting anyone touch body parts covered by the bathing suit.
- If you don’t know where to begin, start with the facts. Teach young kids body parts by their real names – vagina, penis. Then just go with the flow, answer their questions as they ask, with age appropriate responses, and bring up other lessons as teachable moments come.
- Once the kids are older, make sure they have access to things that will keep them safe. The HPV vaccine, condoms, birth control, and a doctor who screens them for STDs.