Talking to your kids about THE TOPIC

Sex. How do you start talking to your kids about this?

  1. Don’t stress. Lots of great resources out there but here are a few trusted ones.
    • American Academy of Pediatrics Breaks the conversation down by age.
    • Answers common questions that parents have.
    • Information for parents regarding safety, sex, and puberty.   Their website offers conversation starter prompts as well as sample answers for some common questions.
    • Tea consent video Consent explained. Using tea. It doesn’t get more simple than this.
  2. Talk early and often. Frequent conversations will make talking to your child about safety and sex less awkward, and more matter-of-fact. If you feel like you screwed up, then there is always another opportunity, and they don’t have to be planned. Sometimes there will be teachable moments, e.g. turn a child’s story about how Susie pushed Sally into the importance of consent and respect for ours and other people’s bodies, buying bathing suits can include a brief chat about not letting anyone touch body parts covered by the bathing suit.
  3. If you don’t know where to begin, start with the facts. Teach young kids body parts by their real names – vagina, penis. Then just go with the flow, answer their questions as they ask, with age appropriate responses, and bring up other lessons as teachable moments come.
  4. Once the kids are older, make sure they have access to things that will keep them safe. The HPV vaccine, condoms, birth control, and a doctor who screens them for STDs.